Question 1

Why should I use DESIRES instead of Tinder or Bumble?

Accepted Answer

DESIRES is the answer to dating app fatigue. While other apps rely on game mechanics and endless swiping, we focus on efficient dating. With us, there are no artificial barriers. If you see someone, you can take action. Our goal is to get you off your smartphone and onto a real date as quickly as possible.

Question 2

What exactly does “Anti-Swipe” mean?

Accepted Answer

Anti-Swipe means we're removing the requirement for a mutual match. You don't have to swipe through hundreds of profiles before you can message someone. Using features like Spotlight or Dates, you can immediately initiate contact or suggest a meeting.

Question 3

Is DESIRES an app for spontaneous people?

Accepted Answer

Yes, absolutely. Thanks to the Around Me tool and the instant date feature, DESIRES is perfect for people who don't want to plan days in advance but are up for a date that same evening.

Question 4

Does it cost anything to create a date?

Accepted Answer

On the contrary, you actually receive coins for accepted dates. Creating dates is free for all users. Users can apply for your date and have to pay 3 coins to do so. For each user who applies for your date, you receive 2 coins, provided you select that user and go on the date with them.

Question 5

Can I see who applied for my date?

Accepted Answer

Yes. You'll receive a list of all applicants with their profiles. You have complete control and can choose only the person who truly appeals to you.

Question 6

What happens after I confirm a date?

Accepted Answer

Once you make a selection, the exact location will be revealed to your date. You can then clarify any remaining details via the chat and call module or meet directly at the agreed-upon location.

Question 7

Can I cancel a date?

Accepted Answer

Yes, you can manage or cancel dates at any time. However, we value a respectful community where commitments are taken seriously. Therefore, if you cancel multiple dates, you may be temporarily blocked from booking new ones.

Question 8

How does the app disguise itself on my phone work?

Accepted Answer

In the settings, you can change the app icon. Choose an icon that looks like a standard app (e.g., a calculator). This icon will then appear on your home screen with an inconspicuous name, so no one will notice you have a dating app installed as they walk by.

Question 9

Who can see me in Ghost Mode?

Accepted Answer

No one—except the people you've already added as friends. For all other users, you're completely invisible on the map, in Spotlight, and in Spark mode. You're a “ghost” who sees everything but isn't seen.

Question 10

Are my video calls secure?

Accepted Answer

Yes, all video and voice calls in the Chat & Call module are end-to-end encrypted. Since no phone numbers are exchanged, there is no way for the other party to track your identity outside the app.

Question 11

Does DESIRES protect against catfishing?

Accepted Answer

Yes, through its integrated video calling feature. We recommend that our users make a short video call before meeting in person to ensure that the person really looks like their photos. We also strongly advise against exchanging phone numbers. Instead, use the integrated communication options.

Question 12

How do I get featured in my city's spotlight?

Accepted Answer

As soon as you open the app and activate your profile, you'll appear in the spotlight. To be at the top and generate more attention, you can upgrade your status to VIP or GOLD.

Question 13

What's the difference between VIP and GOLD?

Accepted Answer

GOLD offers you all the basic features and increased visibility. VIP is our premium status: You'll be highlighted in the spotlight with a special frame, have unlimited Super Likes, and exclusive access to all Ghost features.

Question 14

Can I see users in other cities?

Accepted Answer

Yes. You can adjust your location in Spotlight or on the map to see who's active at your next destination—perfect for planning dates in advance.

Question 15

Does the app need constant access to my location?

Accepted Answer

Location access is necessary for features like Around Me. However, you can restrict or pause this access at any time in your smartphone's settings or directly in the app.

Question 16

How do I permanently delete my profile?

Accepted Answer

We make it easy for you. You can delete your profile at any time in your account settings. This will permanently remove all your data, pictures, and chats from our servers.

Question 17

What to do if you're being harassed?

Accepted Answer

We have a zero-tolerance policy for disrespectful behavior. You can block any user with just two clicks or report them to our support team. We review reports immediately.

The honest answers.

Anti-Swipe & Direct-Dating

Meeting without detours

Extreme privacy

To see and be seen

Help when you need it

Reserve your discretion.